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So here is my dilemma.
I see myself as a friendly person. It's not hard for me to talk to guys or get along with them. My problem is, I am almost embarrassed to really flirt with the guys I am interested in. I guess I don't really know how to flirt! What is your advice on sending subtle signals that say "I like you a lot" (NOT "I want in your pants" because I am not that kind of girl). From a guys perspective, how do I get the ball rolling?!
terribly shy | age 20 | February 6, 2010
Daniel says...
Well, the most important thing is you want to get the ball rolling. This type of attitude will dominate your outlook (even if you don;t notice it doing so). Remember that flirting is about having fun. Flirting is supposed to be fun, a bit of an ego trip, and doesn't necessarily have to be used to indicate you want to date someone. Keep that in mind because it's very important. Often, people can get frustrated or intimidated at the thought of flirting with someone because they think it means they are absolutely, unequivocally interested in the person they are flirting with. Sending that message is scary because they don't want to make their feelings so obvious.
The cool thing is that you don't have to worry about sending a strange message if you're trying to flirt with someone. Flirting is what it is; you can certainly let it develop into a way to indicate interest, but initially it is just a way to have fun with someone. So lighten up and have fun!
When you're looking to flirt with someone, remember to keep things light. Pick on them a little bit or give them a little nickname. Approaching someone and opening the conversation with, "hey, hot stuff" is one way to start. If you're coming up to them and they don't see you, give them a little squeeze in the side (or if you're really daring, pinch his butt). Don't be afraid to walk closely to him and let your hand brush his while you're walking, too. That is a good way to send a subtle message to him without actually saying or doing anything too daring. Finally, don't get disappointed if you stumble a little bit. Flirting has a learning curve and you'll certainly catch on soon enough.
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Published on February 6, 2010 by Daniel | Read all recent Ask A Guy articles.