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Awkward Sexual Situation
Hi, I really need advice on something that has been on my mind a bit... my boyfriend and me have been dating for six months as of Sunday. Now, the furthest we've gone is me giving him a handjob a few times. He really wants to finger me and I want him to, too. The problem though, is that I'm so nervous and awkward. I trust him with everything and I'm never shy around him so I don't really know why I get so awkward. We've talked about it before and I tried to explain why I lock up like I do. One of the reasons I'm so weird about it, I think, is because we are each other's first serious relationships. Because of this, he doesn't exactly know where everything is. I feel really embarrassed for a lack of a better word and I just cant explain where exactly everything is... I don't know why I'm like this, so awkward and nervous and embarrassed, but I am. Is there anything I could do to get over this? It's incredibly frustrating for me. I just want to say ahead of time, thank you.x0klly0x | age 14 | February 28, 2010
amanda says...
Your first time doing sexual stuff is always a bit awkward and both people are usually nervous. I'm sure he's even more nervous than you are. And of course it's weird to have to explain where everything is! I suggest making sure you wait until you are both completely comfortable around each other before going further. Just because you have been dating for six months it doesn't mean you HAVE to do anything. Different people wait different amounts of time. The key is to make sure you are both ready. Now, if you are, then you can help him along the way without being like "Put you're finger in here" and pointing. That's just a bit weird. You can make it more sexual by getting him to run his fingers down there and help him by saying things like "lower... lower..." That way things are less awkward and more sexual. Hope this helped! You are very welcome.Published on March 3, 2010 by amanda | Read all recent Big Sister articles.