Sex Ed 101

Kate's advice: "Is this bad?" NO! This is actually a really good thing, believe it or not! What probably happened is that your boyfriend was actually hitting your "g-spot" which is a cluster of nerves inside your vagina. Aside from the clitoris, this is what triggers vaginal orgasms in women, and not every women is lucky enough to ever experience this. Usually g-spot orgasms result in what is known as female ejaculation (yes, girls can do it too!) and the feeling that you get just before you ejaculate is similar to having to pee really bad! It can be kind of scary, because most people don't want to pee on their partner (there are exceptions to this rule) but you can make sure that this doesn't happen by going pee before you start any kind of sexual activity with your partner. Now, the only other thing that I should mention is that if you are going to play around with this and actually let the orgasm happen, you might want to put down some towels wherever you are laying. It varies from woman to woman, but some women can ejaculate quite a bit, which can make a fairly large mess. Happy orgasming!

Emily's advice: I'm assuming you've already looked up some stuff on technique, so you're not just bobbing your head up and down a lot, failing to establish a rhythm, ignoring all signals from him, scraping his penis with your teeth, or otherwise trying to rip his penis off his body. If you haven't already tried varying your technique and watching his reactions, try that. If he starts moaning or panting, keep doing what you're doing. If he's kind of just sitting there, switch things up, varying your speed or pressure. Tease him a bit before you get down to business, and don't neglect the balls. After you can tell you've gotten him hot, get a rhythm going (again, watch for what he seems to be getting into), and keep going 'til he climaxes or loses interest. If you've done all that and ruled out all the obvious problems, then you need to talk to him, and this time force the issue. There's clearly something he needs to orgasm that he's not sharing with you. Ask him how long it takes him when he masturbates. Ask him to masturbate a bit and show you what he does. He's probably embarrassed to critique your performance, so keep trying new things and keep asking him if you don't get any results.