Big Sister

Imagine the perfect Big Sister. She listens thoughtfully, understands what you’re going through (because she’s been there too!), and won’t rat you out to mom and dad. She takes it all in, and then gives really good advice that you can actually use. Whether your parents provided you with a big sister or not, the perfect Big Sisters are right here and ready to dish out dating advice, love advice, relationship advice, friend advice, family advice, etiquette advice... You get the picture! We know what we’re talking about, and we just love imparting our sisterly advice.

Normal?

This is a little embarrassing to ask but I don't know anyone else to turn to, so here it is. My boyfriend and I like to make out a lot, we do that every time we see each other. And every time we make out, he licks and sucks my nipples a lot. I'm not sure why. It's not that I'm not comfortable with it. It turns me on and makes me feel good and everything. My question is do all guys do that? My current boyfriend is my first and I'm not sure if that's a normal thing to do when people are making out. Thanks in advance for answering my question. Tracy, 18 from California, USA

Sunny's advice: Absolutely that's normal! Guys love boobs and the more they can do with (and to) them the better! Not that I'm speaking from experience or anything (cough), but certainly most guys would do it and would enjoy doing it if given the opportunity. Don't be afraid to tell him if he's focusing on them too much - sometimes that can get annoying. I've had times where I've felt that all I am is a pair of walking breasts and that's never fun. But enjoy it, and don't worry! It's FOR SURE normal.

Who ARE you?

My best friend has been acting weird lately. I've known her since I was 10 but I feel like my group of friends is growing up and she's still acting a tad immature. She's a great person but I feel like we're at different places right now in life, even though we are the same age. I have to force myself to hang out with her. Should I continue hanging out with her even though I feel like she's being so annoying? Shelly, 17 from Canada

Amanda's advice: You shouldn't force yourself to hang out with anyone. I don't think you should totally cut off relations with her though. It's not fair for both of you to continue a "fake" friendship. I'm sure as time passes she will reach your maturity level and I'm sure the friendship can be rekindled. There's always rough patches that happen when you are friends with someone for several years. I say keep in touch with her and see what happens. Maybe a year (or two) from now, your feelings will have changed.

Too Many Compliments About My Looks

I'm in a bit of a rut, and undisclosed's post made me think to write in. I have people tell me that I'm pretty a lot, and I don't really like it. There are two or three guys in particular who compliment me quite often. Once, encouraged by the monster that is PMS, I actually kind of snapped on one of them. I didn't say anything mean, but I asked him to stop and he got mad. I know that they're not meaning any harm, but I feel stupid telling them that I don't like those kind of compliments so constantly. For whatever reason, it does a number on my self-esteem and makes me think that how I look is their only reason to hang out with me. I've never gotten a compliment like, 'you're funny' or 'you're smart'. What can I do about this without being rude to the guys who compliment me? Disclosed, 16 from United States

Sunny's advice: I think a lot of girls would be jealous of your problem, but they definitely shouldn't be! Whenever too much attention is put on you for looks, it can give you a really unbalanced perspective of yourself. In that way I feel really terrible for really pretty girls since a lot of them have so much focus on how they look, it makes them feel like you feel. Unfortunately at your age, being a good looking girl is one of the most important things to many people. Those guys actually think they're helping you by letting you know that you're accepted. That is not to say that people only appreciate you for your beauty, they just are at the point where they think it's the most important feature. Actually a lot of our society is still like that. If you're not comfortable with people making such a big deal, you're going to have to try to deal with it first (because again, people just think they're being nice) but don't be afraid to tell someone that you don't overly appreciate it. If you explain it, they might understand it better. If you really do feel that you're hanging out with people who are just into you for your looks, get the heck out of there! You don't need such shallowness in your life. There are people out there that will love you for the wonderful and amazing person you are INSIDE, not just out!

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